“The Stares, The Judgments”: 25 People Reveal What They Hate Most About Being Overweight
Starting a conversation about weight and body image can be difficult, but one woman recently took to TikTok to open up a discussion about the realities of being overweight. She invited fellow plus-sized individuals to share the worst aspects of their experiences, and the response was overwhelming. With over a thousand comments pouring in, people shared raw, honest, and sometimes heartbreaking insights about the struggles they face daily.
Here are some of the most popular responses.
#1
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feeling like ppl have less respect for u as a professional because “u can’t even control what ur own body”
#2
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It’s the first thing people see and judge you before they even know you
#3
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Being gaslit by medical professionals and being blamed for my weight when it’s not physically possible for me to be eating enough to weigh DOUBLE what I should for my tiny height of 5’2”. It wasn’t until I found a nurse who looked like me in terms of height and build to get the help I needed to start losing weight again once I was put on the right meds. I wasn’t being lazy and overeating. My hormones were so out of whack that my body wasn’t cooperating and I was on the wrong meds. It’s sad how much women esp plus size women are mistreated medically. We are more at risk for neglect.
#4
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it’s getting warmer soon and that scares me so much, can’t “hide” myself anymore
#5
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not being able to walk long distances, being exhausted after climbing 10 steps, etc… the lack of mobility was so hard
#6
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Having to make fat jokes about myself to stop other people doing it
#7
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my toxic trait is to think that everything would be better if i were skinny
#8
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the only clothes that fit and look good are astronomically expensive
#9
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having a condition that isn’t visible that causes weight gain but because no one can see it you’re just seen as lazy. (pcos)
#10
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trying something on that you thought looked too big and it didn’t end up fitting
#11
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I fear my side profile I don’t look at it, I act like I only exist in 2D
#12
when i was fat the most sad thing that i thought was when i watched a show and there was the main couple, and then i thought “i will never have that kind of love i’m disgusting, i will never get married, i will never have the first kiss, or child”
#13
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Taking pictures with friends. I hate seeing myself next to them.
#14
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eating around other people and feeling like you don’t deserve it
#15
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people treating your friends so much differently than they treat you. it genuinely feels like nobody takes me seriously because my weight is the first thing they see
#16
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walking in any fastfood store and feeling the stares.
#17
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what hurts me the most growing up fat and just being fat is comments made by people I thought genuinely loved me. Like family members etc.. like don’t you love me?? Don’t you think I’m pretty?
#18
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the world never lets you forget it,even if they don’t have bad intentions,they will mention it
#19
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Not being normal in other peoples eyes. Like my weight is the biggest (no pun intended) factor in deciding who I am as a person
#20
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Canceling hang outs bcs I dont want people too see me like that or staring in the mirror in disgust
#21
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For me it was the constant hyper focus of other people what i put in my shopping cart in a grocery store or what i ate
#22
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Desperately wanting to lose weight but being crippled with fear, about what you will look like afterwards and not wanting people to perceive me while exercising.
#23
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for me it feels like my entire youth and 20s has been wasted. I could’ve been so much more🙁
#24
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My mom who is also fat told me that as a fat person you will feel like you cannot have any other flaws and that is so damn true!
#25
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Everytime someone looks at me/ or even laughs in a vicinity near me, I think they are making fun of me or thinking ill of me. It could be anyone and I always think they are thinking im a big monster.
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