25 Things Women Saw In A Man’s Place That Made Them Instantly Lose Interest

Visiting someone’s apartment for the first time can reveal a lot about their personality, habits, and even their values. But what happens when what you discover sets off alarm bells? A Reddit thread asked people, “What would you consider a ‘red flag’ when going to a guy’s apartment for the first time?” The responses ranged from hilarious and bizarre to serious and insightful. Here are some of the most memorable answers from the thread.

#1

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A huge red flag is having your fridge full of alcohol with little to no food inside.

#2

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Make sure there aren’t condom wrappers or used condoms out. Wish I could say that this was common sense…

#3

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No toilet skid marks plzzzz… Why is this too common :(

#4

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Wash your sheets and towels.

I know a guy who believed (I hope it’s not still true) towels are clean because he uses them after the shower when he is clean. So he didn’t wash them. They smelled.

#5

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Have food at your house. This is true for entertaining any people at your house in general, but especially on dates, a dude with an empty fridge, no snacks, no tea or coffee or beverages to offer just looks empty handed and unprepared.

#6

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Keep a trash can with a lid in the bathroom. In case she’s got her period, she won’t feel self-conscious throwing stuff away. Not really a red flag to not have one, just a nice touch.

#7

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Clean your bathroom and don’t just have the necessities in there (i.e. toilet paper and soap). Get a trash can and a nice(r) shower curtain. also, for the love of god, don’t keep adding water to an empty soap bottle. go buy another one for $0.98.

#8

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Idky but I hate seeing futons, dirty dishes, and the smell of old w**d, a*s, hot d**k and cocoa butter.

I also don’t wanna see Jergins next to any source of tissue.

#9

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Open the windows! Get some fresh air while you check all of these boxes!

#10

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Don’t hang framed pictures of you kissing your mom on the lips. I’m still skeeved about that one.

#11

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Put your mattress in a proper frame. Nothing screams bachelor hobo like a floor mattress.

#12

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I have seen The bachelor pad with no furniture too many times and *I hate it*. There is only one chair (So I can’t sit down anywhere), there are no blankets, pillows or any other thing that could make the place comfy. The walls are bare and a lone tv/gaming console is all you’ll find in the living room. If you’re really lucky there’s cutlery and plates for 2 people and it probably doesn’t match. Kitchen appliances are generally non-existent as well.

It screams immaturity to me and means that I will not be comfortable in that space. It is not being “minimalistic” it’s just not giving a f**k about your living space and comfort of guests.

Not sure I’d call it a red flag, but for sure something that wouldn’t make me want to come back.

#13

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Two ply toilet paper and a clean towel to wipe my hands after washing up.

#14

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If people cant take 10 minutes to tidy up before they have company over that’s a red flag for me. It doesn’t have to be spotless but at least be respectful of the fact that other people may not want to hang out in your filth. If they have pets is there hair everywhere and are they being taken care of? Mainly if you’re a tidy person it probably isn’t a good match with someone that’s fairly messy. Think about if that’s how you want to live if things work out.

Obviously look for weird things like a sex dungeon (unless you’re into that kind of stuff) or like secret rooms where serial killers would store their bodies. If there are any rooms that lock from the outside, get out.

#15

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Nothing wrong with having a bed on the floor but make sure ur pillows aren’t f****n yellow. Put some damn sheets and pillow cases on your bed! Get a comforter! Too many beds I’ve seen looking like they will give me an STD.

#16

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Lots of great comments here. I think I would just add proper sheets, pillows and towels. It’s nice to go to a guys house and he has good bedding.

Also – make sure there is extra TP in the bathroom. And I would recommend buying some body wash/soap, shampoo and conditioner. Nothing too feminine (you don’t want her to think you have women over all the time) but it’s the worst when you shower at a guys house and they only have 3 in 1.

#17

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Buckets full of syringes out in the open are sketchy, nobody likes that.

#18

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I’m a man so I will share my point of view when going to a *woman*’s apartment. If there is a mess in the bathroom and generally in the rest of the apartment, it’s a turn off. Also the smell of the apartment. Room fragrance is very cheap and can be found everywhere.

I still have PTSDs of my sister’s bathroom. Don’t ask.

#19

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I’m not the fanciest, most organized person, so I don’t judge too much based on how a man’s home looks. As long as the normal bases are covered, you pass in my eyes. I’d say just go through and make sure everything looks nice, like you would anytime you’re expecting new company. Clean out the toilet bowl, put away the dishes etc. I wouldn’t worry about changing your decor- your home is an extension of yourself, so you shouldn’t have to change things decoration-wise just because someone else might want you to, unless you’re planning on them moving in. Just be yourself and let your space reflect that :) If she’s really into you for you, she won’t be worried about whether or not your house has a pretty aesthetic.

#20

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Keep it clean and hide pictures of your wife.

#21

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A mini trashcan in the bathroom is always nice to see. And a nice smell.

#22

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We live and die by the bathroom.

– Fresh roll of toilet paper
– Empty trash can with a plastic bag liner
– Fresh towels
– Scrub toilet
– Scrub sink
– Do a quick swiffer to pick up dust/pubes

Other notes:

– Have a candle lit in the house at least one hour beforehand

– Fresh bedsheets in case she stays over

– Empty kitchen sink

– Ample snacks

EDIT: Formatting, and to add this: Chances are the girl probably has her mind made up about you before even coming over. Not having a certain drink/snack or the right candle isn’t going to make or break your chances of f*****g. But keeping clean and having the fridge stocked are just normal practices of life, not “trying hard”. It’s an easy way to tell who has guests over and who doesn’t.

#23

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No left over artifacts from past relationships still displayed.

#24

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I literally dated a 34 year old man that didn’t have a couch. He told me he threw it out a month prior because his cat wouldn’t stop peeing on it. Instead of training the cat, he threw out the couch. So, have a fully furnished home and don’t be an idiot I would say (haha). I sat in a lawn chair and counted the minutes until I could GTFO.

#25

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Guys who don’t have enough pillows/have bad pillows. Why is it that F**k boys never have more than one pillow? Or if they do then they are lumpy and hard? And the bedding is invariably some sort of check blue/red pattern.

Also anything, ANYTHING, that is an obvious gift from an ex. Not saying bin it, but maybe wait to introduce it to your place. No woman wants to walk into a room and realise it’s been lovingly accessorised by her predecessor.

During my single days I quickly learned that guys who didn’t have nice bedding, usually weren’t the kind worth hanging around for. I wonder sometimes if it’s a subconscious reflection of their emotional unavailability, kind of a reverse feng shui – they weren’t ready for an intimate connection with a partner so they didn’t make space for one in their private space aka only one pillow.