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30 Clues That Immediately Scream “Incel”
The word Incel has become a popular term to denote a man who blames women for his lack of sexual experience and game. Recently Redditor, BlueFruitJam wanted to know how to identify people who exhibit such behaviours. Folks were quick to come forward with the telltale signs that indicate an ‘incel’ or ‘involuntary celibate’ and we’ve shared the most accurate observations in the gallery below.
#1 If they’re from a Western country like the US but complain about women in their country being too independent. And if they talk about wanting to date women from somewhere like Eastern Europe, Asia or South America because they’re supposedly more submissive and treat men better. Bonus points if they’re over 30 and only attracted to very young women and don’t like women their age.
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#2 When they hate everything about women but still want to date them.
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#3 Referring to women as females or toids or whatever weird name they have come up with.
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#4 If they’re obsessed with Jordan Peterson and Joe Rogan, that’s a dealbreaker ladies.
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#5 Something someone said to me which in hindsight should’ve had me running away (but I was beyond good decision making at that point):
I crashed at a colleagues place late one night after drinks.
He makes a move. We make out a little and then I say: “hold up, I’m not sure if this is a good idea”.
He goes: “that’s ok, we don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do.” … “as a woman you have the power” … “that’s the problem with monogamy, it’s given women too much power.”
Scotch and hormones had me a little less reactive to such a remark than I normally would’ve been. I still kick myself for not speaking up in that moment although if I had, it would have probably been even more awkward at work than it already is now…
TLDR: talking as if mutual consent is a power struggle that victimizes men, instead of it being of a non negotiable prerequisite for sex is an incel red flag.
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#6 They throw tantrums and plan your downfall as soon as you say no.
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#7 When he is unable to interact with a woman as a person. There is only sexualization and weird devotion or blatant hate and misogyny.
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#8 There was a man on the subway yesterday who was yelling at me that he was upset that “everyone is gay” because it meant nobody would have sex with him. He proceeded to call me a b*tch and talk about how he “deserved pussy” and was angry that no one would boink him… like maybe if you wanna get some, screaming at people on the subway that you deserve to have sex with them might not be the best strategy.. ?♀️ So in conclusion, if you are being yelled at on the train about being owed sex, you may have just spotted an incel!
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#9 Anyone who talks about or refers to an “alpha vs beta male” ideology. might not be an incel, but it’s probable. Anyone who whines about what women like and how they do or do not fit the bill. Anyone who decides they know how a woman should or shouldn’t behave in any sense.
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#10 Refers to women as females and constantly plays the victim. Bonus if he keeps on talking what a gentleman he is and how women only want a******s.
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#11 I remember back in college there were boys who liked me just because I was a pretty girl. There were also boys who hated me just because I was a pretty. They assumed all sorts of bad things about me just because of my appearance. Those boys are the incels.
Incels hate you because they are attracted to you. They think that attraction gives you some sort of control over them. They assume you will use that power for evil instead of good.
Typically when someone projects that sort of thing onto you, it means that is what they would do in your shoes. They would do something bad to you if you were attracted to them.
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#12 MAGA hat is a dead giveaway.
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#13 He’s an incel if…
He thinks insulting or patronising you is a valid way to flirt, i.e. “negging” to assert their dominance.
He admires Andrew Tate and other incel-ebrities like that.
He tries to tell you that the real problem in the world is feminism, and women need to “get over it because gender inequality doesn’t exist – in fact, men actually have it WORSE now because they can be falsely accused of r**e at any second.”
Also if he tries to mansplain what women are “reaaally like” to you, a woman.
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#14 Without being too snarky about it, it’s probably hard to spot one irl. First, they tend to be heavily online, at the expense of being out and socializing (hence why they’re often told to “touch grass”).
Secondly, when they do have to interact with other people, they don’t tend to be as obnoxiously racist, misogynistic, and generally horrible as they are in their echo spaces online. Incels aren’t unique in this; most people with extreme views are usually at least partly tempered in their day-to-day in-person interactions, compared to their online personas.
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#15 “all my exes are insane” What’s the common thread here? Could it be you? Why are all the women you get close to driven to madness?
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#16 This guy referred to our society as a gynocracy. That counts, right?
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#17 Their words an actions especially when you tell them no or reject them.
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#18 Asking me early on how many people I’ve slept with.
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#19 It’s really hard for them to hide it because they reveal how they view women without even realizing it. When they see us as vending machines where they put in surface-level “niceness” and/or money and get sex in return, it becomes obvious pretty quickly. They genuinely don’t see us as people.
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#20 Weirdly negative of the women in their life. Act like women’s lives are easier. Are mean or dismissive to women they’re not attracted to, but uncomfortably nice to one’s they are. Weirdly s****y towards “attractive” men.
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Has a complex about his height or some similar feature. Just generally treats women like alien creatures. Jokes about rape and gets offended when told to stop. Gets offended by boundaries in general. Believes false rape accusations are common. Talks excessively about “pretty privilege” while being weirdly silent about racism, sexism, ect. Fishes for physical insults.
I’m sure I’m missing some and many of these aren’t diagnostic alone, but they’re a really good starting place.
#21 It’s what they say. Common phrases include: “My biggest fear is that tonight we have sex and tomorrow you accuse me of r**e” “There is no such thing as equality” “Women only want xyz and that’s why no one will f**k me” “I don’t date because I’m not a free meal” “Sorry not sorry. I’m a guy and I’m gonna talk about have sex with you.” In my experience.
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#22 When you set any kind of boundary, no matter how small, how they react to that is very telling. Also, the way they respond to a woman who is knowledgeable about any topic.
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#23 I listen to their stories. They tend to complain a lot about:
– being single and blame society for it
– their female friends don’t want to date them
– their female friends are whores for prioritizing other male friendships
– constant negative assumptions about women’s lifestyle based on how they look
– trash talk about other men to make themselves more appealing
You can also try setting a firm boundary or saying no to their request and see how they respond. Such as “I don’t feel comfortable talking about this topic. Let’s talk about something else.” If they respect you, they’ll move on without further comments or questions.
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#24 Anyone who says “friendzone”.
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#25 If some news comes out about a woman being assaulted by a man, and they immediately decide to defend the guy, and look for reasons to not believe the woman.
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#26 Listen to how they talk about women, and ask them why they just don’t date what they’re not afraid of. The blinks and walkbalks following are the tell.
“Well women are all golddiggers and only want me for my money!”
“They why don’t you date someone richer than you? Lots of lawyers around.”
*blinkblink” “Uh… uhhhh…..”
Next will come a cascade of their own insecurities. This will make them so uncomfortable they won’t want to talk with you again. Job done.
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#27 Telling you about women rather than asking you about yourself as a woman.
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#28 They mansplain what women want / how women are + ignore anything a woman says that counters their statement. They slam and blame women for however they choose to deal with / survive / thrive in a patriarchal world, from preferring a specific type of men, to monetizing their sexuality, exploiting pretty privilege, to wearing baggy clothes etc.
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#29 He stormed out of class because another student criticized Elon Musk.
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#30 Surprisingly easy. The stereotypes are true; poor hygiene, complaints about women, complaints about ‘wokeness’, socially terrible and I do not mean socially awkward I mean socially incompetent, insecure, manipulative, the list goes on!
I HAD a “friend” who had a track record for asking out a bunch of girls only to be rejected. Every girl that said ‘no’ he held a grudge towards and would nitpick anything about them to fuel his sadness. He was hardly confrontational luckily but his quiet behavior is telling that something was up. When we officially hung out (a few years after graduating highschool) he was opening up how he never showered until college (he only took baths before then. Explained a lot). He was into gaming but would complain about certain games that involved lesbianism yet he fetishized the f**k out of other characters that are militarized or wore catsuits (I found this very ironic). Oftentimes we check out games and the like on his desktop. The area was deeegusstingg. Garbage can brimming with used tissues. Keyboard was gnarly. And he had a drawer full of cash from his pizza job that he loved to show off (who does that? That’s inappropriate). Even showed off his firearm. A lot of his behavior is constantly complaining about women, showing off, and telling inappropriate stories; all of which was done too soon upon meeting each other after a long time. The top three things that put the nail in the coffin (I promise I didn’t forgive the previous things, I knew for awhile this isn’t going to last) 1: I caught him closing out a red pill reddit page. 2: he tried to coax me into kissing him despite I was engaged at the time. 3: I was always exhausted when I came back home. Blocked him everywhere, no regrets.
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