25 Bad Things People’s Exes Did That Were Clear Red Flags

Finding a life partner isn’t easy when you consider the statistics. According to the numbers, 85% of people will experience a breakup during their lifetime while two-thirds of couples don’t make it through the first year of becoming parents. The truth is not every couple is meant to be, and the signs may have been there all along though sadly ignored. Recently, a trending Reddit asked people to share the things their exes did that should have made them leave immediately. Folks candidly revealed their most vulnerable moments, and we’ve shared some of their personal stories in the gallery below.

#1 She hit me. A lot. She was also verbally abusive and made fun of my PTSD from military service. I finally worked up the courage to leave a few months ago.

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#2 When I got the call that my grandmother had unexpectedly passed, I was understandably distraught. The usual meltdown with tears and wailing from the utter shock of the whole thing.

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He apparently “couldn’t handle” the state I was in and was very upset at my reaction. So I ended up comforting him the whole night/day after instead of properly grieving the loss of someone who was essentially my second mother.

#3 She spat in my face during an argument. I should have ended it there, but I was dumb enough to stick around a couple of weeks more, when she did it again.

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#4 She wouldn’t get divorced… Her and her husband were separated and living separate lives but she was still legally married. I asked and pleaded for to get divorced for years. By year 5 along with other problems we had i bailed. I should have never of stayed as long as i did. Lesson learned.

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#5 He beat my dogs. That should’ve been the end of it, but the real end of it was when he threatened to beat my kid. I still feel ashamed that I didn’t leave long before that.

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#6 Told me “he’s just a cat, you’ll be okay.” When my best friend died.

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#7 Making me feel bad for bringing up something that made me uncomfortable, insecure, sad, angry, or any other emotion.

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#8 One night my cat was dying and I had organised to go and take him to be euthanised. He said why spend money when he could just hit him over the head?
In the same night I came back from the vets to bury my beloved kit cat, he thought I was being unfaithful (I now know projecting) and went through my phone as I sat and cried.
He didn’t find anything except contacts he didn’t know- he created a group what’s app thread on my phone, with all male contacts (my bosses, colleagues, my brothers, cousins, etc) and sent nude photos he’d taken of me and posted in that chat.
I feel one of my brothers has never been the same with me & the horror of having to go to work the next day is something I’ll always carry.

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#9 Cheated on me at the start. She said she was sorry and I thought we could move from it. We didn’t.

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#10 In June of last year I spent nearly a month in hospital. After I finally got discharged I get home and she tells me that she got the guest room set up for me. Her excuse for making me sleep in the guest room was “you’re on penicillin and I’m allergic to it”. It didn’t make sense to me at all and stung so much after almost a month of having very little human interaction.

About six months later I found out that she was cheating on me while I was sick.

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#11 She was at my place, said she had to go home. I said something along the lines of “okay, have a safe trip back.” She got mad at me for not fighting for her to stay longer. It felt so immature. I have no interest in games, only clear and open communication. I dumped her the next day.

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#12 Manipulating me into not going out, seeing friends, meeting new people, having hobbies on my own. Basically anything that caused us to not be together 24/7.

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#13 Ex number 1 (wife) – Banging other dudes
Ex number 2 – Ambushing me in my sleep and beating the s**t out of me
Ex number 3 – The third or fourth time I had to make sure she stayed dressed while carrying her out of a formal work event

I got myself into counselling after seeing a pattern.

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#14 In my first serious relationship, there was a lot of s**t he did that I turned a blind eye to because I was desperate to be loved. I think a major one was that he would grab and jerk my steering wheel around at high speeds and laugh that I was scared. People who do that do not care about you. I should’ve left before it even started, but when you grow up with abuse, it looks like love. It takes a lot to realize it’s not normal and that you deserve better.

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#15 For context, the first girl I was ever in love with, and in a relationship with had passed away in a housefire at a young age. My ex after showing her a picture of the two of us when we were together when we were young said to me, “damn I thought she would be prettier like me, at least now you got someone who’s pretty though.” never have I told someone get the f**k out of my house so fast. When she got out to my front porch she said, “wait can we talk about this.” and I slammed the damn door and told her to leave. I spent the rest of the night crying my eyes out because I couldn’t believe that someone was so heartless. I opened up to her something that truly meant the world to me and I was beyond nervous to share with her and she showed me exactly why I should’ve never told her in the first place. It absolutely broke me.

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#16 Chasing me down the highway after a fight, passing and braking in front of me until I pulled over. The knots you can tie yourself into at 20 to convince yourself that reckless and abusive behaviour is somehow romantic is absolutely insane.

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#17 Consistent disrespect, belittling or talking down, especially in front of others.

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#18 Man. Where to start. No didn’t mean no. She cheated on me. Threw knives at me. Held a knife to my throat in a argument. Tried to run me over a couple times. Lied. A lot. Spilled personal secrets like they meant nothing.

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#19 When I saw he cared so much about his ex wife and the son they had together, at first I believed he was just a good man who wanted to be a good father and a good ex… and then he started treating me and our daughter as if we were dissposable, but never stopped spoiling his ex. It took me a while to accept it, but I finally left and I’m very happy I did.

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#20 She took the keys out of my car while I was driving on the highway.

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#21 Disrespected me only “joking”.

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#22 Threw my phone off a 7th story balcony while raging drunk, convinced that I was cheating on her….yeah kept dating her for another two years RIP me.

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#23 When he broke my ribs and my hand. But instead I forgave him… that time.

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#24 Would lie about the smallest things that didn’t matter if she thought I wouldn’t like the truth. Surprise surprise she lied about bigger things…

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#25 He said that he will hurt me from the beginning, instead of thinking that it won’t be like that or that I am smarter, I simply should have left. They know themselves, sometimes got to listen and hear it and I would have spared a lot of my mental health. Now whenever someone says that they are not a good person, can’t commit or say that it never ends well – it’s more than enough for me to say thanks for the heads up and bye.

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