Men Confess 25 Realities About Themselves That Women Find Astonishingly Hard To Believe

Reddit, the ever-popular social media platform, is known for its intriguing threads that often dive into the nuances of human experience. One such thread that garnered significant attention was when a user posed the question: “Men of Reddit, what is a fact about men, women believe is a lie?”

#1

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That as much as you assume we know what you’re thinking, we don’t. We like directions, instructions, not assuming that we know what we have to do.

#2

We actually find you just as attractive without the makeup, my wife still doesn’t believe me and gets confused when I compliment her makeup but she actually doesn’t have any on. I really can’t tell sometimes.

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#3

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Some of us don’t cheat. Some of us don’t like one night stands. I like to know my woman’s body. Easier to make them crazy about me.

#4

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Women would be surprised to know just how many of us have been SAed.

#5

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The “Nothing Box”…we really do have the ability to think about nothing. Women have a hard trouble believing this. I refer to you the below comedian who explains it well….

Like how so many men love fishing and women can’t understand…just switch off and think about nothing.

#6

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That many of us don’t want to hurt women or make them uncomfortable.

I spend so much mental effort and time monitoring myself so I don’t make the women around me uncomfortable. I understand why women feel like this – it only takes 1 s****y man to change someone’s life forever. So I get you have to be vigilant.

I know I’m not dangerous. But I also know women have to operate under the assumption I could be dangerous for their own safety.

I get it. I just want you to feel safe.

#7

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You can think someone is attractive without being attractED to them.

#8

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The reason why so many men don’t show emotion is because at one point in our lives, we opened up, and it was used against us to some degree. It’s happened to almost every man at some point. We choose to be distant so we don’t get hurt again.

#9

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Women don’t know what men find attractive. A lot of women I know personally think men love playing mind games. Think playing hot or cold because “men love mystery”. One of the dumbest things I’ve heard in a long time.

#10

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It hurts when you invalidate our feelings or tell us we are bad at things.

#11

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We don’t want our girl to be like the girl I like on my instagram feed.

#12

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Sometimes we aren’t consciously staring at some part of your body, we’re just zoned out thinking about something and you happen to be in the line of sight.

#13

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We can talk with our male friends for hours, and not find out a damn thing about what’s going on with their lives.

And we’re still cool with each other.

#14

That some of us need an emotional connection to enjoy sex.

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#15

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We don’t care for the long gel acrylics or threaded eyebrows or pound of make up.

#16

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We can go months without ever receiving any attention from the opposite sex.

#17

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We really dont talk s**t or sex about you.

Can’t remember the last time a bud has talked about their sex life or drama life, we just don’t talk about that.

#18

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That we don’t just care about s*x, and that some of us actually care very little about it at all.

#19

The likelihood that we will be over 6 foot, have a good family life, can travel anywhere at the drop of a hat _and_ making 6 figure income is extremely small.

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#20

We feel sadness after a break up.

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#21

1. erections are involuntary. Sometimes a response to mental or physical stimulation, but sometimes you can find yourself having an erection you don’t want, and everyone thinks you’re horny when you’re not.
2. we have a stitchline on our balls from when the labia fused in the womb to create what then became the ballsack.
3. we all have a shoebox of old wires, adapters, connectors, and cables.
4. sometimes we slam doors and break things, not because we’re angry or anything like that, but it can be hard to control your strength sometimes, so you might slam a door and then instantly recoil like “oh f**k oh f**k oh f**k” because you realized you shut it too hard – this is also why some men might be averse/scared to choke or slap girls in bed who ask for it; we don’t want to cause actual harm, and it’s very easy to accidentally go too hard.
5. I don’t know anything about, nor talk about, my friends’ partners. I care about my friends, but I don’t ever think to ask about their partners. whether it’s a person they’re dating, or one they’re set to marry.
6. A lot of guys can be satisfied with a mattress on the floor, a tv and a fridge with only basic supplies. Anything else is nice-to-have, but not necessary for us to want to spend our entire weekend at home just lounging around.
7. and of course, we spend years trying different positions to optimize our fart-sounds.

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#22

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That it’s entirely possible to be a perfectly decent guy with social skills and a good heart, yet still struggle to find love.

I’ve found that, as a man, if you ever say you’re struggling with dating, YOU by default are the problem and people will turn into private investigators trying to find out what’s wrong with you. Maybe you’re unhygienic, or you just don’t groom yourself, or you’re secretly a misogynist. It has to be *something*

No, that’s not necessarily true. That is called the Just World Fallacy. If you can’t get a date, people will often give you nothing advice like “just take a shower,” assuming that if dating is a struggle for you then you must genuinely be that clueless. There are scores of well put together men that just aren’t finding love for any number of reasons that are out of their control and insinuating that they always must be doing something wrong perpetuates the stigma against people who are single in adulthood. The stigma that they’re single because something is wrong with them.

I don’t doubt a lot of men have some ridiculous blind spots in the dating world, but based on dating discourse I’ve seen on here, it seems a lot of women think all a man has to do is be a good and fun human being and he’ll be snatched up immediately.

#23

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It feels like many women are misinformed about what we find attractive.

Relaxenjoyyourself:
Very true. It seems to me that women get their idea of what a man finds attractive from other women and gay men. I think a lot of celebrity women are too thin and look sick.

#24

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When I say “I don’t care” about something, I truly do not care. I don’t care if we go to visit your parents or go watch grass grow outside. I really want to do whatever makes you happy.

#25

Men want to, need to and would love to be expressive and vulnerable around you, sometimes switching roles and being the one with the shoulder we need to cry on is ok. It doesn’t mean we are weak, it means we trust you like we trust our mother and would like to open up and build a bond where we both feel supported by each other.

I’ve heard a lot of women complain that men don’t share or men aren’t emotional. Tbh if a man gets emotional, y’all either make fun of it, or dismiss him as a weakling, and then ask why we don’t get vulnerable around y’all. We just find it easier to share it with a guy friend (most of whom don’t know how to deal with their own emotional issues so supporting each other is out the window).

And to the few women I’ve met who understand and support men while they’re being vulnerable, thank you.

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